Day 10 of 30

Man-woman....the relationship they share is the most unique, complex and life-changing. All the other relationships are easy and pretty simple and probably there has been no legal separation for any other relationship except for that of marriage. If you are mad at your brother, you can stop communicating with him and decide to severe all relationships and no hell will break loose and you do something smiliar with your spouse, it is a matter of utmost importance, you get counsel from everybody you know and dont know. You are advised to be more adjusting, for the sake of relationship and if children are involved, they are cited as reason for you to make it all work.

why all the hullaboo about just another relationship, one may wonder. why is there utmost importance to a relationship that is man made. Why people need to change themselves to accomodate a relationship that sometimes you dont even select yourself.

I think, thats the beauty of this relationship, you are not connected in blood, but connected in a way that places itself above all bood relationships. A relationship of trust, love and mutual understanding. If if any of those ingredients is in excess or less, the relationship gets strained. Trust, is a big word.You need to trust someone who was once a stranger to be your better half, to be with you in times of happiness and sadness and be there for him/her.
Love, this i am not sure is understood correctly, somehow love is translated to display of affection and buying of gifs.Neither of it is bad, but there is a danger if this is perceived as love.
If one questions, what is love? It is the feeling of wanting nothing more.If it doesnt make any sense, then its my inability to express the most beautiful feeling. Ask a mother to explain her love for her children, she will give a weird look ,as if the questioner has lost his/her mind, how can a mother explain her love towards her children. She will stay hungry , but wont complain.She will experience the pain, but wont blame.She will will not want anything, but to see you happy.If love has to be explained in words,i will be writing a few million words and still wont be able to explain it.
Mutual understanding..well, the third major ingredient in the recipe of marriage. It is to understand the needs of the partner and let them have some breathing space. We often see, if someone is feeling down, instead of letting that person decipher his/her feelings, we all offer consolation and force him/her to do something we believe that will bring him back to their good spirits. In the process, we somehow forget that every human being, needs to face his feelings and deal with him.there is no running away. A small gesture that, go ahead, deal with it and i am right here when you need me, is what understanding is.

It is the relationship that keeps you company until the very end, so treat with care, add additional spices to the recipe to make it to your taste :), but keep make sure ,the main ingredients are always there.

As i write this post about marriage, my dear DH is restlessly sitting beside me, hoping i will stop my typing and give him laptop(Understanding), He has no idea what i am typing and why, and doesnt care too(Trust) and once he gets his hands on laptop, he wants nothing more (Love). There you go, the 3 main ingredients, and I will now go to bed, in belief that we will keep in these 3 ingredients always at hand in our relationship for a very very long time to come.Amen.