Day 21 of 30

Oh well...i havent been sick all along...me and everyone else at home got better a while ago and neither did i abandon my 'project 30' that i had so enthusiastically started, but something else is taking my time and attention, wondering what , its 'man-eater of malgudi'. I havent been able to keep this book down, R.K.Narayan's simple yet very vivid descriptions kept me hooked. I usually write my blog, after dinner, when A sleeps and i have 'my time' for about 30-45 mins and now that time was hijacked by the 'man-eater of malgudi'. I finally finished the book yesterday night and am hoping, wont pick up any book until i finish my 30 days(well, thats the plan, but who knows!!!)

There were a few things i wanted to write when i was sick ,but dint feel like sitting in front of my computer, around the womens day, i came to know about a sorry state of a woman, and felt helpless at the fate of a woman and how another woman(man's love interest) was cause of it, and how another woman(mother in law) made it miserable and another woman(daughter) even in condition to help, was afraid and hoped the man would change.We all talk about how women needs to be empowered in our society and all the while we fail to see how woman is the reason for woman's anguish.Who can help, what can be done...the truth is, not the govt, not the society, its the woman herself who needs to decide how she was going to live. Is it going be as a victim or is it going to be as a survivor.The choice is given to all, some take it and dont care about the wrath of the world, and some dont and cry at their own fate.

Around the same time, was witnessing a discussion about a woman, by a bunch of other women..None were sparing her, the way she spoke was problem, the way she looked was a problem, the way she conducted her life was a problem. Who are we to judge? And how often do we see a group of men bitching about a man, talking about the clothes he wears, the way he speaks or the number of women he is rumoured to be seeing. Why its us, the woman who are so vocal about another woman, the poor lady dint do us any harm, it was purely our choice to look at her, hear her and then criticize her. And another interesting thing is, a lot of women who were judging this lady, were sympathizers of the woman i wrote above. We like to sympathize, offer solutions and in a second retort to finger pointing and using harsh words.Is it our genetic makeup , or are we inherently averse to other people's happiness?

I am blaming everyone including myself, coz i commented on the lady's way of speak and dressing. Only to realise after, why do i care? Its her life, why am i being the judge.Will i go and give her money when she needs it? Will i console her when crying? Will i feed her when hungry? If the answers are no, why is the answer Yes to 'Will i find fault with her?' . I always though i was a feminist and a strong supporter of woman and look at me, how unknowingly i was one of woman i attributed as the cause in the first cause, am i any less than the horrible MIL or the 'other woman' or the helpless daughter..Something for me to ponder over and correct.